The "I can't wait to" trap

Mindfulness is all about living life in the now. When we are mindful we are able to appreciate what we have rather than looking for what we want. With the buzz of social media and the natural human urge to always want more, it is easy to get stuck in the trap of “I can’t wait to…”

Let us be clear, there is nothing wrong with wanting more and wanting to be better. The trap we get into is the idea that this thing or event is what is going to make us happy. Through mindfulness, we learn to be happy in the now but that does not make us immune to the trap.

Some easy and common traps include:

  • I can’t wait until Friday.

  • I can’t wait until vacation.

  • I can’t wait to have to perfect partner.

  • I can’t wait to have a baby.

What we fail to see when this trap blinds us, is that every stage in our life needs to be honored and appreciated. Every stage in our life is there to teach us a lesson. If we are wishing the stage away the lesson will come to find us later. If we are not willing to learn and grow from discomfort, the lessons will keep finding us and the discomfort will grow.

So what are some things we can do to combat this trap? Depending on what you are going through, there are different things that can be done.

If you are experiencing lack (When we say lack, this could be lack of a partner, lack of money, or lack of something else. You are not looking to upgrade, you are just looking for this specific thing.)

Do not panic. Lack is a state of creation. Whatever big or great thing is already on it’s way to you, just have to be ready to receive it.

Do not look at other people who have the thing you want and say something like “ why not me?” Instead, feel the joy that someone else has what you want so it exists in the world and yours will come soon.

Do look at things you have that are in abundance and rejoice.

Do keep working towards your goal even if the results are not showing just yet.


If you’re looking for some sort of upgrade whether it be a promotion, new house, new car here are some things to pull you out of that rut.

Do not put pressure on yourself. Allow the upgrade to come naturally. Putting extreme pressure on yourself can actually drive the thing you are trying to manifest away.

Do not get stuck in a state of “why can’t that be me.” If this is your thought process over and over again the universe will reward you with not allowing it to be you.

Do focus on what you already have. Try to get back into the space of how you felt when you first got it. Remember how much it meant to you, how much you appreciated it? Come back to that feeling. Allow that feeling to take over any negative emotions you might be holding on to.


Do let go of any feeling of want. What you have is enough if not more, this is why the universe has given it to you. Enjoy what you have.

Keep in mind that your happiness is already here. You cannot wait for something physical to bring it here. Experience joy every day. Experience joy through lack and through tribulations by appreciating every lesson. Do not wait for your happiness, do not wait to start your life. It is all here it has always been here, make the conscious choice to start experiencing it.


Elizabeth Recchia